Published on Medium: Six things to do if you want to help someone who’s grieving- I lost three people in less than three months

Yesterday I wrote my first official post on Medium. To read the post you can click on https://six-things-to-do-if-you-want-to-help-someone-whos-grieving-i-lost-three-people-in-less-than

If it resonates with you or you like my writing, please root for me by clicking on the ‘clap’ icon in Medium. If you want to be notified of my future posts, click the ‘Follow’ button.

I’m still very new to Medium and am not sure how one gets readers or makes their post visible to a lot more people out there. I don’t think the ‘lack of experience’ is the issue though. I’m four years old on WordPress and I’m still looking for answers to the same questions. I’m not sure if it is because I don’t write on a specific subject but whatever catches my fancy or that I’m not active enough in the community or that I’ve got the tags all wrong. I’m certain it’s not the quality of my writing. I’ve seen worse writing with a much larger and active following. Whatever it is that’s preventing me from becoming the next big blogger out there I am thankful to those few who never fail to read my posts, like and comment on it. It’s nice to be read… obviously.

If any of you experienced bloggers has tips on how to increase traffic here on my blog or on Medium, please let me know. I could do with the help. If it’s the technical sort of advice, just spell the word ‘Technical,’ without going into the details because I don’t think I can wrap my head around ‘Technical.’

With that said, I can tell you I’m feeling much better after writing the post I’ve attached the link to above. It gave me a sense of closure. To all you WordPress bloggers who’ve been there with me over the last few months sharing your own experience with loss and your words of strength, please know that your words gave me strength during my darkest days and helped me know that I wasn’t alone.

Thank you!

Have a wonderful Sunday!



6 responses to “Published on Medium: Six things to do if you want to help someone who’s grieving- I lost three people in less than three months”

  1. sienablue Avatar

    We are like links in a chain, reaching out to pull the others through the stormy sea of grief to the calmer shores.

    Perhaps this is why I am painting seascapes I am painting seascapes and shorelines……

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    1. Smitha V Avatar

      Yes…I believe it more and more. That everyone you meet or know…we’re connected. It doesn’t just happen.

      Hope your knee is not giving you much trouble these days…I hope you are feeling better.


  2. sienablue Avatar

    It was a great read, but I don’t want to setup a Medium login, so I didn’t give it applause.

    I am sorry if my eagerness to offer advice was among the unhelpful things you read during your intense period of grief.

    Thinking over what you wrote about, I realized that when you lose your second living parent, that is a tremendous change, we get that much closer to contemplating your own mortality. And that just adds one more layer to what must be processed and dealt with. In your case, I realized that your three losses were like being orphaned. A real soul wound, it leaves you tossing in a storm of emotions without the anchor of those loved ones who are older and wiser.

    I am glad you found someone who could tell you in person that you have done amazingly well to come through this with such wisdom and such a talent for articulating it in a way that can help us all.

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    1. Smitha V Avatar

      Jo thank you so much for reading. You don’t have to set up a login…just click on the clap icon at the bottom of the post.
      No, no you don’t have to say ‘Sorry.’ I have looked forward to your messages during these times and your words never failed to comfort me. You belong to the group of people I said ‘those who understood were too far away.’ Please don’t ever hold back. I love hearing from you Jo.
      Yes thats the word ‘orphaned.’ Most people don’t understand that. They think ‘So what, you have your husband and your children.’ It does not mean I am not grateful for those who I have but the losses creates a huge vacuum created all of a sudden. Thank you Jo for never failing to understand.
      I’m glad too I met her…God sent her as a messenger I think to help me when I couldn’t help myself anymore.
      Thank you Jo for the warmth and kindness of your words. So grateful to know you.


  3. robbiesinspiration Avatar

    Hi Smitha, thank you for sharing this link. I clapped, followed and left a comment.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Smitha V Avatar

      Thank you so much Robbie😘…you’re so dependable.

      Liked by 1 person

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