Following my heart, Daring to dream, Living without regrets
I’m not sure parents say this, but I’m certain they feel it. Because being a parent isn’t easy and certainly not, the first time around, which for some may be the only time around. There are bound to be mistakes which may not be obvious, and there may be no witnesses other than one’s conscience. Does that mean it’s okay? Or do the children deserve an apology, too?
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HI Smitha, this is a beautiful poem. Strangely, I feel as if parenting was much easier for me with my oldest. He is so similar to me and I understand him completely. Michael on the other hand, is an enigma. We bang heads a lot more than I ever have with Gregory. I have also had to adapt my planned path for Michael several times in order to ensure he gets what he needs in the way of schooling and support.
Hi Robbie. Thank you! Your experience with Gregory sounds very similar to my experience with Rhea. I guess losing my mother when Rhea was still 4 and Akanksha was two made it difficult for me, and it made me impatient many times, which I feel, in retrospect, I shouldn’t have been. Thankfully, no damage was done, and I’m grateful for it.
Michael sounds like the typical second child – they learn by watching the older one and our reaction to them, and they become hardy. Lol
Beautifully written and relatable, Smitha! ❤ As the oldest child, my parents had high expectations for me and were very strict. I noticed that they eased up a lot on my sister, the youngest child.
My oldest child was born when I was nineteen. She is more than twenty years older than my adopted son and daughter. I am sure my oldest suffered from my inexperience, and the younger two may have wished for a younger, more energetic mother. 🙂
I know your lovely daughters make you proud every day and have bright futures ahead! ❤
Thank you,Cheryl. As an elder child, I remember my parents being strict and overly invested in me. My mom was 20 when I was born. I wasn’t strict, but I know I made my own share of mistakes with my older one. Having lost my mom and having two kids to handle, I remember being impatient, and I’m not proud of it. As for my younger one, she got off the leash because I was exhausted with managing home, work, and everything in between🙂. So,I know perfectly well what you mean.
Thank you so much for your warm words of confidence,Cheryl. As moms, we all need to hear it… I wish the same for you and your children❤️
Hi Randall, I’m so glad you liked the quote and want to share it with your elder sister. That is really thoughtful…especially when a younger sibling acknowledges it. Do let me know how she reacts to it🙂. How is China treating you?
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I’m surprised you can relate to it. You’re so calm, collected and full of love (from what I know of you through your writing), I didn’t think you could ever hurt a fly 🙂. But, I am glad to know it happens with all of us. Thank you, Lauren, for sharing your experience with your kids❤️
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Hi Smitha, I happen to be online and saw your comment come through. 🙂 You’re right about me…I wouldn’t hurt a fly, but what I meant was that all parents make some kind of mistakes because they’re learning along the way. Of course, everyone has their own stories. Luckily, we have a great relationship with our son and daughter. That’s all we can hope for. 🤗💗
It eases the burden knowing that the mistakes parents like us make are done unknowingly, and at the root of it is only love and care. You’re right, Lauren… having a relationship with children where they do want to speak to us and visit us as often as they can is all we can hope for and must be grateful for. Fortunately, we have the same relationship with the girls as of now. Thank you for writing back immediately ❤️🤗. Have a lovely day!
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Thank you, Jo for sharing your experience. It’s a relief to know we all make mistakes.
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