Following my heart, Daring to dream, Living without regrets
I’m not sure parents say this, but I’m certain they feel it. Because being a parent isn’t easy and certainly not, the first time around, which for some may be the only time around. There are bound to be mistakes which may not be obvious, and there may be no witnesses other than one’s conscience. Does that mean it’s okay? Or do the children deserve an apology, too?
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This is so heartfelt and loving Smitha! I just love it!!! 💗
Thank you so much, Cindy. It means a lot coming from you.
P.S. I read some of your posts and I love your writing❤️
You’re so welcome. That’s very kind and we were connected and then got disconnected with so many posts.. Sometimes I miss things!! 💗
Smitha, a beautiful heartfelt piece! I bet in the end your eldest would look in confusion and wonder why you would ever feel you needed to say ‘sorry’!
Lol… Thank you, Annika. My older one did ask me if I meant every word I said, and I said, ‘Of course.’ She was focusing on the last line alone. Then she replied, ‘He he, love you, Mamma’. It’s funny you asked. Thank you❤️
HI Smitha, this is a beautiful poem. Strangely, I feel as if parenting was much easier for me with my oldest. He is so similar to me and I understand him completely. Michael on the other hand, is an enigma. We bang heads a lot more than I ever have with Gregory. I have also had to adapt my planned path for Michael several times in order to ensure he gets what he needs in the way of schooling and support.
Hi Robbie. Thank you! Your experience with Gregory sounds very similar to my experience with Rhea. I guess losing my mother when Rhea was still 4 and Akanksha was two made it difficult for me, and it made me impatient many times, which I feel, in retrospect, I shouldn’t have been. Thankfully, no damage was done, and I’m grateful for it.
Michael sounds like the typical second child – they learn by watching the older one and our reaction to them, and they become hardy. Lol
I am glad to read your experiences and know I’m not all alone.
I feel the same when I read yours, Robbie. Hugs💕
So true! My son turned out OK in spite of his very young, inexperienced mom.
No wonder God chooses them to be older ones:)… because they turn out okay, after all. I’m so glad this resonates with you,Darlene.
Beautifully written and relatable, Smitha! <3 As the oldest child, my parents had high expectations for me and were very strict. I noticed that they eased up a lot on my sister, the youngest child.
My oldest child was born when I was nineteen. She is more than twenty years older than my adopted son and daughter. I am sure my oldest suffered from my inexperience, and the younger two may have wished for a younger, more energetic mother. 🙂
I know your lovely daughters make you proud every day and have bright futures ahead! <3
Thank you,Cheryl. As an elder child, I remember my parents being strict and overly invested in me. My mom was 20 when I was born. I wasn’t strict, but I know I made my own share of mistakes with my older one. Having lost my mom and having two kids to handle, I remember being impatient, and I’m not proud of it. As for my younger one, she got off the leash because I was exhausted with managing home, work, and everything in between🙂. So,I know perfectly well what you mean.
Thank you so much for your warm words of confidence,Cheryl. As moms, we all need to hear it… I wish the same for you and your children❤️
” …because you wear the crown of being the eldest, and therefore carry the cross of inexperienced parents.” Beautiful, I am passing this on to my older sister 🙂
Hi Randall, I’m so glad you liked the quote and want to share it with your elder sister. That is really thoughtful…especially when a younger sibling acknowledges it. Do let me know how she reacts to it🙂. How is China treating you?
Oh, this is so relatable, Smitha! We’re not given instruction booklets before we’re discharged from the hospital. 🙂 I can also identify with what Jo said, having two children who are not only boy and girl, but individuals. 🙂 It’s a “learn as you go!” 💞
I’m surprised you can relate to it. You’re so calm, collected and full of love (from what I know of you through your writing), I didn’t think you could ever hurt a fly 🙂. But, I am glad to know it happens with all of us. Thank you, Lauren, for sharing your experience with your kids❤️
Hi Smitha, I happen to be online and saw your comment come through. 🙂 You’re right about me…I wouldn’t hurt a fly, but what I meant was that all parents make some kind of mistakes because they’re learning along the way. Of course, everyone has their own stories. Luckily, we have a great relationship with our son and daughter. That’s all we can hope for. 🤗💗
It eases the burden knowing that the mistakes parents like us make are done unknowingly, and at the root of it is only love and care. You’re right, Lauren… having a relationship with children where they do want to speak to us and visit us as often as they can is all we can hope for and must be grateful for. Fortunately, we have the same relationship with the girls as of now. Thank you for writing back immediately ❤️🤗. Have a lovely day!
Goodness me, we all made those mistakes. The little perishers didn’t come with an instruction manual!
Lol! I know…how many times I wished for a manual or just an ability to see into their future, so I knew I was doing the right thing. Thanks, Mick, for writing back. Your words made me smile.
Wishing you a wonderful day!
You too, Smitha.
Well said, Smitha. I made different mistakes with each of my two, because they are two different people who presented different challenges.
Thank you, Jo for sharing your experience. It’s a relief to know we all make mistakes.
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